Set goals, practice self-discipline and always think positive because you will become what you think. If we want to succeed these are the things we must do, right? Frankly, I get tired of always trying to think positive and be the best that I can be. It’s hard! Often times when I fail and throw myself a pity party or flash my brights at the car that just cut me off and yell profanities I feel guilty. Guilt casts a huge shadow on the progress I’ve made and illuminates all my faults, slips and failures. It is safe to say, guilt is not my friend.
So what do you do when everyone is telling you to be more positive and any negative thought is pointed out, criticized and judged? You know what I do? I take it with a grain of salt. I compare my life today to yesterday. Am I doing better? Am I still taking steps towards being the person I want to be and achieving the goals I have set? If the answer is ‘yes’ then I keep on plugging away. On the other hand, if I am letting others push my buttons, losing control and routinely yelling profanities at ignorant drivers then I may need to take steps to keep these actions from becoming a habit and get in the way of the life I am hoping to create.
Obviously I want to live a joy-filled and peaceful life but I am not God. I will never be perfect and I need to accept the fact that I will make mistakes BUT each day I have a choice. I can get out of bed and be a little bit more, patient, caring, compassionate, loving, giving and self-disciplined than the previous day. If I stumble I can refuse to let one, two, three little mistakes rob me of the joy of eight successes for the day. Tomorrow always offers new opportunities of its own. Refuse to be defeated and discouraged! On those days when you are sick of being positive don’t beat yourself up for feeling negatively. Try to determine the root cause; maybe there is too much stress at work or family bickering. If you can tackle the root cause the feeling will go away.
When you do stumble don’t let guilt rob you of your joy. Get up, brush yourself off and get back on that horse.